2025: Best year of my life

Many things changed for me in 2025. IYKYK. I'm not sure what lit the fuse, maybe all the things. The time seemed right for me to have an outlet like this blog, so here we are. More on the About page.

I thought I'd kick things off with an end of year wrap up on what I learned this year, like everyone is doing. So, here's what I learned about myself and others with the help of my therapist, coach, friends, family, neurons, and Instagram reels. Maybe some of it will resonate with you.

tl;dr

• Reconnect with your long term and far away besties and make it a habit to have a 5-hour phone call with them every couple of weeks. Hour long talks every 2-3 months is ok too.
• Be ok with not getting everything done on your to-do list (personal and work) during the time you planned for it. Stuff happens, you're human, and all that.
• If you've ever wondered about something or someone, stop wondering and check it out. If it doesn't work out, now you know it's not for you.
• Get in the real world. Ween yourself off social and digital media communication. The promise of social media bringing connection has run its course. We've forgotten a human is behind those posts, likes or emojis, and words don't tell the full story. Text for brief communications, phone call or video chat for important nuance in voice or expression, or see someone in person. Sharing funny or unhinged Instagram reels is still ok!
• If your therapist points our your dysfunction and you don't believe them or are focused on other things at the moment, write it down and return to it later. They see everything. (Mileage may vary. Therapists are humans and some aren't all that. Get a new therapist if that's the case.)
• Tell the people in your life that have meant or currently mean something to you – just that. I've done this randomly in the past, but it hit home recently and now it's too late.
• Do the things for other people that others didn't do for you. (The inverse is also true, but I already knew that)
• Those that hurt or harmed you have legitimate reasons for their (bad) behavior. It doesn't excuse their actions, but something in their past or present influenced the behavior. Narcissists excluded from these humans.
• It wasn't me. It was you.
• I'm awesome

Watch this space on December 31, 2026 for what I learned next year. I have high hopes. I do have plans, but also, life happens. We'll see.

My next post will be my 2026 personal and professional goals. When I finish them.